We all have our carnal desires. While some of us find an outlet for that moment by diverting our energies to other activities such as sports or work in an attempt to forget that urge, others find an outlet to release it by simply engaging in sex.

Who is one to say the former method is naturally better than the latter? It really depends on the values we hold dear.

Recently, news broke that a local director was having affairs behind the back of his wife. Or rather his wife knew about his extra-martial trysts but chose to close one eye initially, then both, with the hope that her wayward spouse who had veered off course would subsequently return home repentent.

But as the script always goes, the wayward spouse never repents and instead continues with his philandering ways until all hell breaks loose when mistress confronts wife at home. And mind you, it’s not one mistress…it’s a string of mistresses coming out from the closet, slowly, but steadily, one after another, to exposue the true colours of the wayward one.

Why does one always have to learn the lesson the hard way? Is the forbidden fruit always sweeter and more desirable?

I read with disgust how he continued to see the Mistress No. 1 on the sly (or rather openly) when the wife was preganant with child No. 4. Excuse me, even if your wife is heavy with child and cannot satisfy your sexual needs, just do it yourself and get on with it. Do you really need a younger girl to make it up to you?

If his wife was barren, I can probably understand his motives a little better. But she’s not. In fact, she’s given him 3 children and child No. 4 is on the way.

Interestingly, this trend is timeless. Remember the black golfer who drilled holes part-time while he was not swinging his clubs on the green? Or the big nosed megastar who sired a female child nicknamed ‘little dragon girl’ with an actress while married to another evergreen actress? The examples from history past are just too many to list. But I’m sure this will not be the last of such stories we will be hearing.

When men are in power and of a certain status, they tend to fool around to assert their authority. Sowing seeds and drilling holes seem to be the best extra curriculum activities, aren’t they? You can sow a seed, so can you plant a tree. But if you dare to sow a seed, do you dare to sow what you reap? Now there lays the difference.

We cannot erase our past, however unglamorous it is. But we can certainly choose to lead our lives with dignity and intregity. Be a man and own up. There’s no point getting your wife who has suffered enough to be subjected to further emotional torture so as to score brownie points for you.

I don’t blame the mistresses for coming forward with lurid details on how they were wooed all the way to the bed. Men, with their honey coated words, would have offered them a platter of tantalising rewards – be they movie roles, cash or even promises of official recognition. But do a reality check and ask yourselves will any of these materialise? No. The men can promise you anything from the sun to the moon, just to get you into bed. Once the deed is done and he has satisfied his carnal desire, you belong to the category of stale goods. Now on to the next sweet young thing. That’s why only sweet young things aged between 22 to 26 need apply.

Yet, let the truth be said. It’s not always the man who strays. Woman too stray and they do it quite daringly as well. I just saw an old neighbour in the same bus on my way home. She was with another man and she certainly was getting touchy touchy with him. Alright, she’s a widow so perhaps she has the right to seek a second relationship after her hubby died years ago? But if you were in the know, she was already seeing this man on the sly (or rather openly as well) when her husband was still alive! Such audacity on her part. I’m sure her husband must be turning in his grave should he ever find out.

If anyone out there still wants to play, please proceed with caution. You have been warned of the consequences!

Being able to charge a fee, albeit nominal one for providing goods & services is the expected norm. If you can charge yet insist on giving it for free, then I think you must get your head checked. Checking your head will help ensure you don’t encourage the continued mass proliferation of criminal activity by virtue of your act of giving free. When you give something out for free, chances are that people are not appreciative of it at all. They feel they deserve it. Because it is free, you have planted the seed of thought in their head that you are not an authority in that field. Neither are you confident of what you have to offer. That’s why you are doing it or giving it out for free!

I’m not saying you can’t give things out for free. Yes, you sure can. But very often, there are strings attached for such freebies. In this internet age, nobody would voluntarily give you his/her email address unless he/she knows there is some soundbite size information that is useful and will help improve the quality of life. That’s why he/she chooses to subscribe to a newsletter for such free news. Similarly, nobody would deliberately give out free product samples on the streets without attaching a coupon saying “try me first before buying…”

Recently, we held an event which I was initially very much against. Yes, you guessed it right. It was a free event. Having done my stint in strategic planning in corporate before, I knew instantly that turnout would be bad. After all, it would not hurt people a thing NOT to turn up as they did not pay a single cent for it. All they had to do was to register interest to indicate they would be attending. This certainly wasn’t good enough.

On the event day, the actual turnout was pathetic. Only two people made the effort to make it for the free event. I cringed silently and shook my head. For the sake of just two people, was it even worth the time and energies to galvanise the entire team to action? Just imagine, the poor suckers like me had to sacrifice my sleep and wake up at 5am just to get to the venue, only to be disappointed from the lacklustre turnout. This is to be expected, my friends. If only people had heeded my advice prior to it. Charge a nominal fee for the event if you don’t want to make too much from it. At least, it helps to cover the cost of transportation, logistics and our team breakfast later.

Fast forward to March 2010. There are plans for another similar indoor event in an attempt to bring more awareness. And again there are suggestions to do it free.  Some people don’t learn, do they? But because I am in the driver’s seat this time round, I insisted on charging. If they don’t pay, I won’t do it. Period.

There is no free lunch in this world. Even if you want to pack some food home from the buffet for the evening or for your family, you still have to pay for the buffet meal first before proceeding to surreptitiously steal food home.

This is when I know I need to catch up on my beauty sleep. The body is amazing, isn’t it? It sends a timely signal to the the other senses hinting strongly that it is tired and needs to recuperate. If you don’t listen to your body signals, then don’t regret it later if you fall sick.

Not one who enjoys falling sick, I was obedient for once and heeded the body’s call. After my shower, I promptly checked myself into bed at 10.20pm. This is probably the earliest time I have entered the arms of Morpheus. But there are just some times in life you have to treat yourself to an extended dose of beauty sleep.

Good night everybody. Sweet dreams

It’s a food tasting for Kentucky Fried Chicken’s (KFC) new product which they just launched. In fact, I’m one of the lucky 15 bloggers chosen for the food tasting. But really, till now, I still don’t know what I will be expected to eat. It’s probably going to be a surprise as we were told it is not something that we will expect KFC to serve. Plus it’s something sweet. Hmm….

3PM. Suntec City KFC. Food Tasting Venue. Wow…I feel like a VIP today as there was an area cordoned off for us. Seeing paper trays on the table, I knew only then what I would be eating later.

KFC Suntec City, Singapore

Lo and behold…the KFC Egg Tart has finally come to Singapore! Although we are not the first country in the world to get to enjoy the KFC Egg Tart, but better late than never, right?

I’m one of the lucky few to try the new KFC Egg Tart

Hailing from Macau, it supposedly follows an authentic recipe developed by the famous Margaret Wong who improved on the current Portuguese egg tart’s flavour. Through word of mouth, her improved version Portuguese egg tart took Macau by storm and subsequently some local KFC staff too! That was how they contacted Margaret, and bought her recipe. And thus was born the KFC Egg Tart!

After understanding a little of the history of the origins of the KFC Egg Tart, we were told to start thinking of a word in English or a phrase in Mandarin to describe how we feel after sinking our teeth into the egg tart. More importantly, we would be getting our 30 seconds of instant fame as filming would be done while we utter the word/phrase.

‘Mouth-watering’ was what I said to the camera when it was my turn. Trust me, the KFC Egg Tart truly is mouth-watering. As we were served freshly baked egg tarts fresh from the oven, I could instantly taste the warmth each bite gave me. The freshness apart, what I particularly liked about the egg tart was its smooth egg custard which simply melted into my mouth effortlessly. It was akin to having found my desired happiness. I wish my family and friends were here to share this special feeling with me. For the record, I ate two egg tarts.

Me & my ‘mouth-watering’ KFC Egg Tart

Another finger-licking-good treat from KFC? You bet. The best news must be it’s a permanent item on the menu…which means you can eat it anytime, anywhere. Just hop down to a KFC outlet near you. It’s retailing at 43 selected outlets well situated around Singapore.

Selling either individually at $1.30 a piece or in a box of 6 for $7.50 as a gift for the coming Chinese New Year. Check out the intricate box which was specially designed for Chinese New Year with its hues of red and yellow – both auspicious colours for the festive season.


Get the egg tarts individually or in a box of 6!

After the shoot was over, the KFC management was so kind to extend their hospitality to us by allowing us to order any item off the menu. No prizes for guessing what I ordered…yes, it’s a box of KFC Egg Tarts as I’m going to share the new snack with my family

With the other bloggers at the KFC Egg Tart sampling

“Ignoring the sheer weight of the kavadi on my head
and the pain emitting from the sharp skewers pierced into my bare body,
I take yet another step forward. 
Slowly but surely…
stopping sometimes to
receive a food offering from some devotees
stopping sometimes to
dance and twirl around in circles.
With the peacock feathers on my kadavi fluttering majestically in the wind,
I undertake this arduous journey
as a mark of my faith,
as a language of my belief,
as proof of my dedication,
as return of my earlier vow
For if I am pure in both my thoughts and feelings,
may I not be hurt throughout it all.
May I wear a cloak of invincibility to
wade through the slings and arrows that may come my way.
May I be strong and not quiver
when facing my deepest fears.
May I summon my inner courage to
makr good my promise to God.
May I rise above all challenges and
be the greatest warrior of them all.”

Lionel Lim

我不必问什么
你知道我要问什么
我不必说什么
你知道我要说什么

我讨厌看到他自信的模样
我嫉妒你和他的欢乐时光
我不敢想象你们的暧昧情况
因为我相信我是太爱你了

我们之间的问题
在他还没出现之前
已经存在了
是我们选择把一切掩饰
以为这样做彼此会快乐

我们之间的问题
在他还没出现之前
已经存在了
是我们选择逃避现实
以为这样做彼此能圆满

原来他才是我们生命里的放大镜
是他把残酷的事实放大了

闹了以后我们感情是否依旧
能不能永远天长地久
我不知道未来会如何
但我答应我会一直在你身边守候

I must have learnt a very important lesson when it comes to photo selection. The photo must always have a super super white background and the facial features must be so clear and frontal. 

After hearing tales on how bad the lunch crowd at ICA was, I avoided collecting it during that hour and chose to go after 3pm. But guess what? The queue was just as long. My queue ticket bearing number 7900 had 42 people in front of me. A good thing I brought a book along to read…

After waiting close to an hour, my number was called. I was really in for a big surprise as the counter staff started to chat with me. I’m not sure if she does this to all customers but it totally took me by surprise.

She started telling me how people would go to extent to choose their nicest photo for the passport as it is valid for 5 years. Then she even let loose the worst kept secret that some people, both ladies and men included go for makeovers before having their photos taken.

I politely nodded my head and smiled. I’ll skip the makeovers please…as confidence and a smile matters more

And now I’m up at 8am because of a morning meeting. When I am sleep deprived, my language tends to be acerbic, my attention span scattered, my reflexes retarded, my eyes bloodshot and my mood greatly affected.

Aargh!!!!

Beauty

Vanity a necessity
Beauty, to animals
is the vigour, strength,
that won the fight
and gain the access
to the female and
the best offsprings are produced.

This beauty
is without words
without scale
and yet it ensures
the animal would prosper
without drugs, without discipline

The immense forces
of vast nature
enforce this wisdom
to animals
wiser than human
clearer than words

Human
with drugs and needles
can make many things happen
with scale and number
can make happening precise
However, human, the insatiable
nature of human
never satisfy with what they have
and jealous of what others have
so they try to change what it is
even without reason they can
find one
even without logic they can
invent one
and do so more fervently on
others, those who are
who are better already in many other ways

So human keep busy at scale
at number
and forgotten what is the purpose

As a trainer, you cannot easily change the desire
but as a wise trainer,
once you device something measureable
on scale progressively achievable
then man return to optimal instinct and wiser they become