After The Love Is Over
After the love is over, can we still remain as friends? After the love is over, can we pretend nothing has happened between us?
I personally find it hard, if not impossible.
We are all human beings governed by emotions. After a whirlwind romance or love marathon (depending on the speed of your progress), the someone has occupied a privileged place in your heart. You know so much about your other half – the character, temperament, likes and dislikes.
After the love is over, you know we will never be the same ever again. The months leading up to the breakup is often a tumultuous one – the quarrels, cold wars, disappointments and heartaches. It is often a series of accumulated events rather than one single event that triggers off the breakup. Many a repeated attempt to salvage the relationship, you know deep down inside where this is going and how it will end.
Instead of living in self-denial thinking things will turn out alright as time passes, it’s always better to be open about it and seek a resolution. It’s better to be unhappy now than be unhappy for the rest of your life.
After the love is over, you may or will consider taking the following measures. Exorcise the ghosts of your ex by deleting all the photos you took together, blocking your ex on msn, unfriending your ex on facebook and all most importantly, purging that by now dreaded number from your mobile phone.
After the love is over, you will laugh at the lengths you went just to please your ex on numerous occasions to earn that pathetic smile of approval. You now ask yourself this – was it even worth your effort in the first place? Or were you just a fool blinded by love?
After the love is over, you will inevitably feel sad as it did not result in a successful union. But then hey who said that there must be a ‘they lived happily ever after’ kind of ending? This is not a fairytale. If even the royals (think Diana & Charles) and the celebrities (too many to list here) go their separate ways, what more us mere mortals?
After the love is over, you will feel happy savouring your freedom again.
