No Happily Ever After?
Not every relationship has a fairy tale ending. I was at the gym today when I bumped into an old friend of mine. Let’s call him A. Haven’t seen A for at least 1 year. But before I could ask A how he was getting on, he brought me aside and poured out his woes to me.
I didn’t have to ask for details. He was so graphic and detailed that it was really dramatic.
One fateful day last week…
5am plus. A returned home from clubbing and found himself locked out of the condo which he shared with his partner. Feeling it strange and not wanting to wake his partner up, he slept over at the guard house.
10am plus. A went back to this apartment and found the iron grills locked but door ajar. Seated on the sofa watching TV was another guy half naked. A went berserk and started screaming.
“Open up!!! Open up!!!”
A’s partner who was showering appeared and unlocked the iron grills.
“Don’t you dare sit on the sofa. I bought it. Get up now!” A shouted to the guy who by now decided not to stay and watch the drama unfold. “And who gave you permission to touch my TV? Use my glasses and towel? Who who? I bought all these things!!!”
Things started to get ugly when A and his partner had a showdown in the master bedroom.
The truth finally sank in. A’s partner had wanted a breakup all along. Perhaps it was good A found out now and was not kept in the dark forever. Imagine if they were married and A found out later…I cannot fathom the consequences.
“If you want a breakup, why can’t you tell me properly? Why must you do this to hurt me?” A by now heartbroken A questioned.
They have since sold the condo and went their separate ways. A was unceremoniously booted out of a seven and a half year relationship with his partner.
Recalling the breakup, A lamented,“For seven and a half years, I planted seeds…expecting them to bear fruits which I could enjoy. But now no fruit. Lost the seed as well.”
Well, in any relationship, it’s not the receiving that matters. It’s how much you want to give. When you give, don’t expect to receive anything in return because if you don’t get anything back, you will be utterly disappointed. Just give your love like how our parents give their love to us unconditionally. This way you will be happier.
A continued. “Had I known, I would have gone for the forbidden fruit all these seven and a half years…”
Well, the attraction of someone better, sexier, prettier, hotter is always there. Where do we draw the line? Is it ingrained in us to flirt with someone else when we are already in a relationship, let alone start another one on the sidelines? Why can’t we be content with what we have, be present and love wholeheartedly?
Having seen so many divorces, separations and breakups, am I daunted by all these? No. On the contrary, it reinforces my belief that happily ever afters exist. I can similarly point out so many success stories of couples who have walked with each other till the end of time. It’s alright to experience a heartache now and then. After all, if you don’t learn from experience, you will never cherish what you have. I think A realises this now. He is now with someone else. I wish him happiness, love and luck.
